Denise DuBois: Fill your mind with negativity, and you start repeating it

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As funny as memes are online, I’m beginning to detest the majority of them. Don’t get me wrong, I still love the Kermit the Frog ones with Inner Me talking to Me, but I’m really starting to get over them.

Here’s why.

First, when talking about women, memes tend to use the word “female.” I don’t like that word at all. The definition is as follows: adjective; of or denoting the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) that can be fertilized by male gametes;

noun; a female person, animal, or plant. Did you get that? A person, animal or plant. When you read these memes and they’re referring to “females,” the meme is more often complaining about something “females” do. It gives the connotation of an object rather than a woman. I would much rather the meme complain about a woman than a female because at least there’s a human aspect to it.

Second, memes are usually complaining about something or being negative about something – like Mondays, for example, or having to “adult.” I’m so over people complaining about having to be an adult or hating Mondays. Neither of those things are going to change, so let’s get over it and move on to something we can actually do something about. I never once heard my mom or any other adult in my life as I was growing up complaining about having to be an adult. They may have discussed financial hardships or how to deal with people they didn’t particularly like (even that was few and far between), but I never heard them just complaining about the act of growing up and taking on responsibilities.

Third, memes are usually just being mean about a person or group of people, and I don’t like that. So picture this: you’re scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or your social media of choice and you’re reading all these memes about women, men who can’t act right, dating hardships, the difference of how spouses clean the house, being fat, and so on. You’re filling your head with negativity. You get out in public or to your job, your mind still filled with the nonsense, and your co-workers start getting on your nerves. How will you treat their little annoyances? How will you treat someone who gets in your way at the supermarket? Since you’ve been reading so many complaints, you’re probably not going to respond well to the people around you.

I think that’s the biggest reason why I’m over seeing most of the memes. I don’t want to be in public and feel jaded, angry or annoyed with the people around me. I love Jesus Christ and I’ve committed to walking in His way. That means I want to love the people around me and be patient with the annoyances that we all have (and trust me, we’re all annoying). I want to feel joy in my heart and think about things that are happy and spirit-filled. I can’t do that if all I fill my mind with is pessimism.

I know what you’re going to say: they’re just memes and they’re funny. They are just memes. They are simply words and pictures. That is until they begin to turn you into a complainer or a Negative Nancy or a Debbie Downer or just a mean person. I’d much rather stay away from them. I don’t want those words and pictures hampering my spirit and what the Lord is working on in me. Plus, they’re not very constructive.

Maybe in the near future, some creative person on the Internet will come up with words and pictures that are just as funny but also speak life and positivity. We’ll see.

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