Denise DuBois: Without deliberate decision-making, life passes us by

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Facebook’s memory reminded me of a pictured I posted to the social media site a few years ago. It got me thinking about life and where it takes us. I’ll share the actual post in a minute, but I want to talk about how it affected me first.

Life happens. Time goes on and we just go about our days. We know we have work, kids, spouses, etc. and we get everything accomplished in the week (or at least try to). We’re busy. Our busyness is like a status symbol. We love to tell people how crazy our lives are and that there are still things we have to do. We love to talk about the lack of free time we have and how late we went to bed because of our to-do list.

Before we know it, it’s been a month or six months or a year. We’ve watched kids grow up and the seasons pass without much of a second thought.

Life just happens.

But I don’t like it.

What if we didn’t just do about our work, kids, spouses and life as usual? What would our lives look like then? What if we were intentional about the things we did throughout any given day? What if we decided not to just let life happen to us, but we took control of the direction we were going? How different would it look? I say all the time that I need to spend more outside time with my dogs. Suddenly, it’s a year later and I haven’t taken time to build them the agility course that I’ve pinned online. I was always too busy or caught up in my day to day busyness.

It’s not just life that we need to be more intentional about.

The memory that Facebook recalled for me was a photo that said: “We never grow closer to God when we just live life. It takes deliberate pursuit and attentiveness.”

I spent two years taking seminary classes to gain a certificate in Biblical teaching. I have spiral notebooks full of notes that I’ve wanted to put in the appropriate places in my Bible for almost two years. But I’ve not taken deliberate pursuit and attentiveness to accomplish it. I’ve let life just happen. What would our relationship with Christ look like if we were deliberate? If we didn’t factor Him in our lives, rather make Him our whole life?

That memory hit me hard because it was two-fold: because it does take dedication and on-purpose actions to have a fulfilling relationship with Christ, and it takes deliberate actions and decisions  in our day to day lives to do the things we say we want to do. Before we know it, it will be too late.

I’m thankful for that recollection. It reminded me that I need to be more deliberate in my faith. It also reminded me that life will pass me by and I’ll have only accomplished my busy work.

What are some things that you say you want to do but busyness gets in the way of doing? How will you now make the conscious effort to accomplish those things?


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